On the anonymous Valentine’s Day Survey we sent out, MANY Lovett students said that the best thing to do when you’re single is to “cry.” One specified crying while eating, another crying while in the shower.
I have to disagree. There are a number of other things to do that I think are much more enjoyable than crying (or, as one student suggested, doing ”mindless tasks to forget how empty you feel”)
Here are a few more pleasurable, constructive options.
Hang out with your friends:
I am definitely not alone with this idea. Multiple people mentioned this on the Valentine’s Day Survey. We got many responses about this including, “Be with your other single friends and act like it’s any other day,” or you can just “make it Galentine's Day,” the variation celebrated by the ladies on Parks and Recreation.
Cook a big meal:
Cooking can take a while depending on what you're making, which could end up being a positive thing. Take a trip to the grocery store, and spend all day making that fancy pasta recipe you’ve been dying to try for the longest time. It will give you something to do during the day, and cooking can be a therapeutic exercise for some people. If you aren’t the best chef and don't feel like burning anything, you can try a meal kit delivery service such as HelloFresh. I got this recommendation from Olivia Aiken. She said that she does love baking from scratch, but “it’s just easier with HelloFresh because all you have to do is put it all together.” There are different difficulty levels you can decide from, but Olivia picked the easy one because “it was just fun and simple and I really enjoyed it.” If you would like a meal recommendation, Olivia’s favorite meal from HelloFresh is the Spaghetti and Meatballs with Garlic Bread (hellofresh.com - $8.99 per serving with $8.99 for shipping), so you could always give that a try or you can go the extra mile and make something from scratch!
Get a big meal cooked for you:
If you're too lazy to cook for yourself, treat yourself to your favorite restaurant. Go with friends or go solo. If you really want to get away, take a spontaneous flight to Wyoming and try out Helen Shearer’s favorite restaurant, “Bubba’s Bar-B-Que.” Helen said, “I even have a t-shirt from that place that’s how committed I am!” I mean, it’s worth a try, right? Helen’s go-to order is the 12 Ribs ($28), Mac and Cheese ($6), and a Coke. Don’t want to travel across the country? Try the shrimp tempura roll from Nova’s Sushi and Asian Bistro ($9). Don't want to be as fancy? Try the classic Chick-fil-A sandwich ($3.75).
And if you really don't feel like cooking or going out, take this person’s advice from the Valentine's Day Survey, and, quote, “get fat on chocolate.” I mean, whatever floats your boat, I guess?
Binge your favorite TV show:
If you’re like most high schoolers, you probably have a show that you’re either currently watching, or you’ve finished. Spend the day binging your favorite show. If you need any suggestions, try out Grey’s Anatomy (on Netflix with a subscription of $8.99 a month), which was recommended by Parker Silliman. Parker loves “how there is something new that happens every episode.” She also likes how each episode is “really exciting and interesting.” According to Wikipedia, “as of December 17, 2020, 369 episodes of Grey's Anatomy had aired, including five specials.” That is about 246 hours of TV, so there’s no chance you’ll run out of episodes before the day is over. And of course, you can live vicariously through the romance of Meredeth and Derek.
Try painting or drawing:
Even if you aren’t the best artist (like me) it is still enjoyable to mess around with some paint or colored pencils. Who knows, you may end up creating a masterpiece? A while back, I interviewed Leah Cox on art and what it does for her in her daily life. I recently spoke to her again to see how art really makes her feel. She said that drawing is a form of meditation. “There’s something about being in the zone and away from outside distractions that sends me into a moment of relaxation and peace,” she said. Leah is currently working on “a more reflective and introspective drawing,” which is something she hasn’t really done before. She is really proud of herself, as “the piece has many difficult aspects, such as fabric (clothing) and fingers.” You can go all out and try to make something with clothes and fingers, or you can just sketch on a piece of construction paper in an attempt to get your mind off of things. Not feeling creative? Channel your inner third grader and cut hearts out of pink construction paper.
Go on a run or exercise:
Trust me, go on a run. As someone who “runs” occasionally I must say, as hard as it is to get out of bed and start running, you feel really good after and it is an awesome workout. Caroline Wood started to run in quarantine because she had a lot of free time. She realized that she enjoyed it, so she “joined the cross country team.” She likes it because it “is good exercise and a good way to clear your mind,” she said. “Running makes me feel accomplished and it helps get rid of my stress.” Playing fun music also helps make it more enjoyable. If you are completely against the idea of running, you can try going out and doing some sort of exercise class. Sweat out your frustration over not having a date, or, taking a more positive angle, celebrate your strength, endurance, and independence.
Give yourself flowers:
My last suggestion is to just treat yourself and make your own flower arrangement to decorate your room. It could be fun, and you could spice it up by visiting Peachtree Flowers, a family-owned shop that specializes in floral arrangements.
Get a head start on homework:
Valentine's Day falls on a Sunday this year, so you could always get a headstart on your E day homework that’ll be due on the 16th after President’s day.
Be the third wheel:
See if any of your friends will let you tag along on their dates, or just show up anyway. Maybe some of that Valentine’s Day spirit will rub off on you. And if you end up crying at home, you’ll be in good company with a whole lot of Lovett students.